Skip to main content

ATTRIBUTES OF A MATURE ATTITUDE


Black mature female entrepreneur business woman

Personally, I take offence to the term "Negative Attitude and/or People." A lot of people love to throw terms and labels around that they themselves don't even understand or get.  We can not go around arbitrarily labelling others with negative terms.  Words are powerful.  We must be mindful of the effects they have on others and the consequences. 

Pff! "Negative attitude" and "negative people"...who are we to judge?  Don't they realize that by calling someone negative, they are guilty of negativity? Labelling someone else with such "negative" terms makes you that which you have labelled or accused the person of? 

You become the perpetrator of negativity rather than an advocate of positivity.

Everyone has the capacity to be good and cheerful or reverse.  Some people have just been through a lot of hell, heartaches, struggles and suffering and may not have learned how to control their emotions well.  Others are different because of their race, culture, creed, tradition or spirituality.  While others just have strong personalities that are either threatening or intimidating to others.  I, for one, have one of those strong, enigmatic personalities and have suffered gravely for it at times.  But, I am who I am...love me or hate me...I know what I want, and I stand up for what I believe in.  You see; we live in a world where people are constantly telling us, if not adamantly telling us, to be ourselves—yet when we do, they don't like it, and they criticize who we are.  

Well, I am here to tell you, be the best version of YOU, you could ever be! Win some, lose some!
  "Embrace what makes you unique, even if it makes others uncomfortable." -Janelle Monae

Not because you go about things differently than someone else or get different results, that does not make you "better" or "more positive"...just different sets of circumstances, that's all. There is an old quote that I love that I believe will put this into full perspective:
Quote card
With that said; as you go on your journey through life, especially as a young person designing the pathway of your destiny, don’t fall in love with ideas or get attached to the plan too quickly.  This can easily set you up for grave disappointments in life and possibly a downhill spiral.

Keep your options open and explore the possibilities; otherwise, you could become stuck in a rut and trapped on a pathway or an idea that leads nowhere and refuse to let go, as with Willy Loman, in Death of the Salesman This is not to say you give up on your dreams.  It is simply saying, stay flexible and open.  Be deliberate, purposeful and painstaking.  This is your life; take your time with it and seek the help and guidance of a coach.
Adapt a mature attitude to your life and your dreams. This will take some time to develop, as with anything else. To help you along, here are a few attributes of what a mature attitude looks like:
ü  Willingness to explore various pathways or options
ü  Willingness to change your mind or orientation and let go of old ideas
ü  Willingness to sit it out and investigate new possibilities
ü  Willingness to accept uncertainty
ü  Willingness to pray and seek direction and guidance
ü  Willingness to listen and learn
ü  Willingness to refine a few carefully selected paths or options until one matures

Part of having a mature attitude is knowing and trusting your instincts and learning from wiser, more experienced heads.  A mature attitude is accepting the inevitable and running with it. Changing your mind and creating new plans is great and is a sign of a healthy attitude. However; choosing, solidifying and refining one idea or goal is maturity.
Wheel of life chart infographic

In conclusion, there is no such thing as a "negative attitude", just different points of view and ways of getting desired results based on different sets of circumstances.  Choose your pathway and your friends wisely.  This will put you in an environment more suited to who you are, and that will allow you more freedom to express yourself truly.  Secondly, know that there is not just one single pathway…there are literally tens of thousands with equally the same opportunities and options for success.  Lastly, explore and carve out your own niche—there is one out there with YOUR name on it.  A mature attitude is all it takes.   Good luck! and until next time, be Blessed, be Strong, be YOU!

—AggieStrong

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

10 Habits for a Healthier Life

Living a healthy life is more than just eating right and exercising. It involves nurturing both your mind and body. Here are ten habits to incorporate into your daily routine for a healthier, happier you: Keep a Mood Journal : Track your emotions and thoughts. This can help you understand patterns and triggers, allowing you to manage your mental health more effectively. Seek Help and Support : Don't hesitate to reach out for support from friends, family, or professionals. A strong support system can make all the difference. Avoid Recreational Drugs and Alcohol : These substances can negatively impact both your physical and mental well-being. Opt for healthier coping mechanisms. Make Dietary Adjustments : Eating a balanced diet rich in nutrients fuels your body and mind. Small changes can lead to big improvements. Practice Mindfulness and Breathing Techniques : Mindfulness can reduce stress and increase focus. Incorporate breathing exercises to calm your mind. Take Your Medications

Rising With Resilience in 2023

Did you know that resiliency is the glue that holds us together and keeps us from falling apart when we experience difficulties? What Is Resilience? Resilience is the barometer for how well and how quickly people rebound from challenging situations such as oppression, trauma, stigma, catastrophe, adversity, setbacks or undue difficulties. Some people call it  bouncing back  from the harrowing experiences of life. We all have the capacity for resilience, whether we know it or not, and most of us experience it to a varying degree. Resilience is like the elasticity in a rubber band. We only know that we can bounce back when we have been stretched. Similarly, like an elastic band, if not occasionally stretched, we become ineffectual—dried out and brittle. However, if excessively put to the test, we become snappy or flaccid, often to our detriment.  The more stress or adversity a person experiences, the more likely they are to withstand challenges because they have developed those muscles.

Demystifying Misconceptions: Embracing Strength and Resilience

Today, let's delve into a topic that's often misunderstood: the concept of being strong. As we navigate these misconceptions and pushback, let's bear in mind that strength is a multifaceted and deeply personal journey. It's about embracing vulnerabilities, celebrating resilience, and showing the compassion and kindness we all deserve.  In a world where strength is often misunderstood and frequently equated with manliness, it's important to remember that being strong isn't about masking our emotions or pretending that everything is chipper. Rather, being strong is about facing life's challenges with courage, conviction, soundness of mind, and an unwavering determination that you will get through them. Can you recall a time in your life when you experienced difficulties and emerged stronger in the end? Those moments of struggle weren't easy, but they taught you some valuable lessons about your own resilience, determination, and the power of the human spiri