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ATTRIBUTES OF A MATURE ATTITUDE

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Black mature female entrepreneur business woman

Personally, I take offence to the term "Negative Attitude and/or People." A lot of people love to throw terms and labels around that they themselves don't even understand or get.  We can not go around arbitrarily labelling others with negative terms.  Words are powerful.  We must be mindful of the effects they have on others and the consequences. 

 Pff! "Negative attitude" and "negative people"...who are we to judge?  Don't they realize that by calling someone negative, they are guilty of negativity? Labelling someone else with such "negative" terms makes you that which you have labelled or accused the person of? 

You become the perpetrator of negativity rather than an advocate of positivity.

Everyone has the capacity to be good and cheerful or reverse.  Some people have just been through a lot of hell, heartaches, struggles and suffering and may not have learned how to control their emotions well.  Others are different because of their race, culture, creed, tradition or spirituality.  While others just have strong personalities that are either threatening or intimidating to others.  I, for one, have one of those strong, enigmatic personalities and have suffered gravely for it at times.  But, I am who I am...love me or hate me...I know what I want, and I stand up for what I believe in.  You see; we live in a world where people are constantly telling us, if not adamantly telling us, to be ourselves—yet when we do, they don't like it, and they criticize who we are.  

 Well, I am here to tell you, be the best version of YOU, you could ever be! Win some, lose some!
  "Embrace what makes you unique, even if it makes others uncomfortable." -Janelle Monae
Not because you go about things differently than someone else or get different results, that does not make you "better" or "more positive"...just different sets of circumstances, that's all. There is an old quote that I love that I believe will put this into full perspective:
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With that said; as you go on your journey through life, especially as a young person designing the pathway of your destiny, don’t fall in love with ideas or get attached to the plan too quickly.  This can easily set you up for grave disappointments in life and possibly a downhill spiral.

 Keep your options open and explore the possibilities; otherwise, you could become stuck in a rut and trapped on a pathway or an idea that leads nowhere and refuse to let go, as with Willy Loman, in Death of the Salesman.  This is not to say you give up on your dreams.  It is simply saying, stay flexible and open.  Be deliberate, purposeful and painstaking.  This is your life; take your time with it and seek the help and guidance of a coach.
Adapt a mature attitude to your life and your dreams. This will take some time to develop, as with anything else. To help you along, here are a few attributes of what a mature attitude looks like:
ü  Willingness to explore various pathways or options
ü  Willingness to change your mind or orientation and let go of old ideas
ü  Willingness to sit it out and investigate new possibilities
ü  Willingness to accept uncertainty
ü  Willingness to pray and seek direction and guidance
ü  Willingness to listen and learn
ü  Willingness to refine a few carefully selected paths or options until one matures

Part of having a mature attitude is knowing and trusting your instincts and learning from wiser, more experienced heads.  A mature attitude is accepting the inevitable and running with it. Changing your mind and creating new plans is great and is a sign of a healthy attitude. However; choosing, solidifying and refining one idea or goal is maturity.
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In conclusion, there is no such thing as a "negative attitude", just different points of view and ways of getting desired results based on different sets of circumstances.  Choose your pathway and your friends wisely.  This will put you in an environment more suited to who you are, and that will allow you more freedom to express yourself truly.  Secondly, know that there is not just one single pathway…there are literally tens of thousands with equally the same opportunities and options for success.  Lastly, explore and carve out your own niche—there is one out there with YOUR name on it.  A mature attitude is all it takes.   Good luck! and until next time, be Blessed, be Strong, be YOU!

 —AggieStrong
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