GOSSIPING: The Demon within You

No sword bites so fiercely as an evil tongue. --Sir Philip Sidney

Gossip: To talk about someone adversely (badly) when they are not around.

Let me say first and foremost, we are all sinners saved by grace and none of us are free of errors.

What is your greatest pet peeve?  Mine is Gossiping and here is why.

Gossiping is evil, unwarranted and disgusting to put it bluntly.  Of all the evils of the mouth, a gossiping tongue is the most diabolical of them all.  I despise, loathe, and hate gossiping with a passion.  I don’t know how many different ways I can say that I am turned off by it.  Personally, I would rather be a loner, void of friendships and be “unhappy”, than be in the company of a gossiper and or participate in it. 

So what is this terrible thing you may ask?  It is that idle, trifling, chit-chat people engage in for the purpose of spreading rumours about other people's personal and/or private affairs.  Things you have no business talking about in the first place—it is based on stories you’ve heard and/or pure speculation.  You are embarrassed by it.  This is why you do it in private—behind closed doors and behind the person’s back—just pure “susu-susu”, as Jamaicans would say.  In the words of Artists Such as:

• Bob Marley - Trench Town Rock:  Some will eat and drink with you, Then behind them su-su 'pon you. Only your friend knows your secrets, So only he could reveal them...who the cap fits, let them wear it! 


• Franco - Memory Kill: It is twisted hearsay…a severe paralysis, wallowing insane hopeless vain. 


• Drake - Say What's Real: Everybody talks and everybody listens But somehow the truth just always comes up missing

That being said, Gossiping is evil.  It hurts. It tells lies, berates and, belittles the gossipee. It is the worst form of bullying and the root of it.  It is meanness to the core.  It causes death and dying—top on the list of suicide. http://www.suicide.org/suicide-survivors-coping-with-rumors-and-gossip.html Gossiping needs to stop!  What does the bible say about gossiping –Here are a few texts for you to ponder:

• Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29
• Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets, but he who is trustworthy in spirit keeps a thing covered. Proverbs 11:13
• Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking deceit. Psalm 34:13
• Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not. 1 Timothy 5:13
• The words of a whisperer are like delicious morsels; they go down into the inner parts of the body. Proverbs 26:22
•  You shall not bear false witness against your neighbour. Exodus 20:16
• They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, and malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, and maliciousness. They are gossip. Romans 1:29

Thus; gossiping may seem simple and innocent fun, but if you don’t stop and repent, you too shall go to hell. It is an evil deed.

Secondly, gossiping is unwarranted.  No one wants to or likes to be gossiped about. So why do so many people engage in it and some even live for it?  There is absolutely no need or reason for it. Some say I have no personality; I am boring, even miserable because I refuse to participate in hurting others.  That is just fine with me.  Gossipers are coward fools who choose not to confront and/or be upfront about their own thoughts, feelings or curiosities.  They would rather hide behind phrases such as; “I don’t like confrontations.” Yeah! Right?!  Bet you love back-stabbing and character assassinations.  They are murderers of spirits and have no respect for trust and privacy.  In my mind, they are amongst the worst form of human beings.  The greatest pretenders—pretending to be your friends or allies—they get close to you and then use your own information against you. They twist your words and slander you.  You thought you found a confidant, but instead, you found a monster.  Gossiping is hateful and spiteful.

And finally, my last reason for hating gossip is, that it is disgusting. Gossiping is ugly, inhumane and ungodly.   It is a sin before man and God.  The Bible says we are to love one another, not hate one another.  Gossiping promotes hate mistrust and strife among all.  It sits at the base of depression and withdrawal.  It damages reputation and erodes friendship.  Your little clique, your so-called happiness is hurting others.  You think you have friends but all you have are enemies--frightened, insecure smallminded frenemies.  If they do it to someone, anyone, they will do it to you.  Have no part of it.  It is the most insidious form of lying and outrage against another human being in the name of friendship and collaboration.  You should be ashamed of yourself—gossiper.  Stop it! And Stop it now!

Remember, if you are not an eyewitness, you ARE a false witness.  If you are not a friend you ARE an enemy.  Be courteous! Be Godly!  Surrender your tongue to the spreading of good deeds.  I know it is unruly, but you must tame it.  Tame it against lies and gossip.  You know the old adage: “Sticks and stones will break my bones but words can never hurt me.” Well, let me assure you, words hurt.  They hurt like hell.  Gossiping hurts—it cuts deep to the core and causes internal bleeding.  Don’t wait for another suicide, another person to quit school or quit their job before you wake up to the damage that you are participating in.  If you have something to say, say it to the individual.

Stop the insanity—stop the Gossip!


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